Dating an italian woman
In order to do that, I would suggest you to take a look at the , a brilliant renaissance book on good manners which marked the Italian behaviour till nowadays (and in case you were too lazy to google it, you can read a bit more about it here).
Rather, with the following five tips I can promise you that even if you may not increase your chances with an surely you won’t diminish them. Even in the XXI century with the equality of sexes largely accepted as a fundamental right, and the woman independent as she probably never was in history, the majority of the Italian men are still somewhat sexist, although in a way which is not always necessarily negative.
So, once clarified these premises, let’s see how not to mess your date with Maria Antonia Ermenegilda. No matter what’s your opinion: she will always be right. You may or may not be familiar with my personal aversion for the Dutch practice of always splitting the bill (and if not, check out the incoming new Abroad in your mailboxes next week! However this originates from a maxim of my Neapolitan grandpa: you always offer to a woman. Well he probably was even a bit too strict in his philosophy, so much as to offering a coffee to the postwoman passing by, but the point is once again that she would expect you to do so, and will certainly notice in a less than flattering way if you had her paying. I’ll explain myself: many of us may still see women if not as damsels in distress, nevertheless as candid and fragile creatures who need to be protected. Let’s conclude with a must of the relationships with Italian girls: you notice that your sweetheart seems upset and you dare to ask her about what’s her concern.
Let’s start with an almost self-evident truth of nature. This can be put into effect by helping them in every day’s situations such as carrying their heavy luggages, or reaching a jar on a high shelf in a super market. Very gallant of you, but beware of the hot water into which you are getting.
It’s easy to take them home and have sex with them, but with you Italian girls, it’s not so easy.” At least, that’s what they say; I don’t know if it’s real. They treat you like a princess, and the next day they disappear. You know, I was discussing this during dinner with a friend of mine recently. Our casual terms for We also have different words for men and women masturbating each other. If you use your hand on a man, it’s sega, which is also the thing you do when you cut a tree, saw. Men who have a lot of women are real men.”The opposite. A lot of women become obsessed with finding marriage. But American girls are easier because they are here on holiday.
Despite how much you think you know about a particular issue, our will always know it better than you. Before leaving my motherland for the first time, I thought that this went without saying, but I learnt that not in every cultures this practice is clear (or in the Dutch case, perhaps even advisable! Italian women are ladies, no matter how old or young they are. Even if an Italian lady could at first refuse your help (after all this is what the etiquette would command), she may gladly accept after just a second offer, appreciating your chivalry. An Italian lady will always denies her inner turmoil, and even worse may hold you responsible for not having noted earlier how she was feeling.
Are you ready to rebut that you studied that subject in high school, university and then wrote some essays about it? They will always deserve a kid-gloves treatment, which concretely can be put in practice by always making way and/or holding the door for her, and showing your appreciation for her with compliments. No matter what is the cause, or if you are the cause at all: the best thing to do in these cases is just to abandon the topic for the moment, distract her, and try to conquer her pardon back (offering a gelato is always a good start).
“Dating an Italian is intoxicating in a good way, it’s so easy to get caught up in their passionate natures and endearing accents, just make sure to not completely lose your head and make sure it’s the real deal and not a novelty because past the ‘honeymoon’ phase, the ‘fascino’ of dating someone from a totally different culture tends to fade to the background of everyday life.
You want to pick the right person, not just the right Italian” “Hmmm – well interesting– many of my “dating” experiences were bizarre— as being married or engaged doesn’t matter to most italians as most women are just here on holiday– staying on cramps their Playboy style!